Nice Guys ALWAYS Finish Last...

"Its really funny how life plays an everlasting game of chess with a one's emotions..
Its always waiting for you to make the next move, waiting for u to screw up big time..
You on the other hand, reluctant to be beaten time and again, struggle consistantly to keep up, preying the next wrong move that might be made...
And to our distinct disadvantage, life can just suddenly send distractions to take control of the situation, thus turning it back towards its favour..
And the sad part is we do not have any trump cards to return the favour what so ever.."


Saw this show today..Though i didn't get a chance to finish watching it, still it was really sad cuz it was one of those "nice guys finish last" kinda shows.. You know, its the worst situation to be in.. Being the nicest person but always ended up being taken advantage of.. Not to say that its done on purpose, but rather subconciously.. It was about this guy who always put others before him, people he loved, people he was willing to sacrifice his life for.. But sadly, life wasn't as fair to him as it should have been.. Already having a distraction of having somebody, he conveniently goes and falls for this other girl who was also attached.. But due to the fact that he was attached, he couldn't possibly fall for the other girl.. Supressing feelings within him, he had no choice but to love from a distance.. Being a good fren but wanting so much more.. As creepy as it sounds, it genuinely touched me on how sincere he was to this girl..

Sadly, it was to here that i had to go..

Must finish watching it though..

This also kinda reminds me of a post i put up a few months back...
This is to all the nice guys out there... Live on my frens!!!

Click here..

I'm Back...

Just arrived back yesterday from Hong Kong...
A great break.. Just exactly how i wanted it...
The company made it all the more better...
Will blog more about it in a few days when i can...
Back to work tommorow.. :(
till den...

The Da Vinci Code

Just watched the show today and i must say, in my opinion of course, it sticks rather closely to the book.. Which is good and bad in both ways if u think about it...
One thing is for certain, it certainly screws around with your mind about your faith (if you are christian), and give you whole new perceptions about Christianity(if you are not).. Oh well, to each his own...

But i do wan to catch some other shows, namely X-Men 3, Over the Hedge and The Wild... CAn't wait man.. Just really hope that work does not bog me down..

O did i mention i'm hopping to Hong Kong this June? Anybody need anything?? Lemme know...

Regret

For the most part of my life, i have based it on one theory.. Do anything u want, but never ever turn back to regret it.. And faithfully, for most of my life, i have followed what i preached... But yesterday, as Noel was leaving or should i say for the most of yesterday evening, i was filled with nothing but the worst feeling that i hate so much...

The man, the legend.. The best bud i ever had.. The guy i grew up with.. The person i could never ever stay angry with.. The most patient fren i ever had.. The one who could always knock sense into me when all in front of me seemed lost... Left for Houston for the next 6 yrs to study to be a vet...

Since the days that i've known him which dates back really to primary sch.. His love and compassion for animals have always been there.. often we spoke about our dreams...and i'm so glad that he's well on his way to fulfilling his.. On the flipside, the bravest move of going abroad all alone, leaving your family and frens and all that you've ever known behind...Those thoughts must have surrounded him when he entered the departure hall.. From his call to JJ about 15 mins later, he sounded sad, almost troubled... we sensed this and felt every emotion that must have been runnning through him at that very moment..

The regret i have is that i never could spend enough time with him... Let alone a dinner... Work bogged me down for the last few months, and crucially the last 2 weeks.. and now, the question really is when is that next time i can even see him again??

Its not forever i know, but time has always been the enemy to most...For it was time that tore us apart right from the beginning.. As JJ put it to me perfectly, we must not make the same mistake again...

My thoughts go out to you bro.. Wherever you might be right now.. its less than 24 hrs but i'm missing u more than ever inm the last few yrs.. I guess its just realisation sinking in... its true reallym you'll never know what u had, or have, till its long gone.. When you do realise its true value, it would have been way too late...

I'm never going to make this same mistake again.. This i swear on my very grave...

See you in Feb at Houston next yr... i will walk there if i have to...

Wat Luck??!!!

Not blogging for a few months has gotten me to realise how busy i've been..
Work, church(stop laughing..) takes up most of my time nowadays... So sorry if i haven't been spending enough time with my friends... I wish i could.. i really do...

Just found out that Noel (My childhood buddy) is flying off to the States on Wed.. He'll be gone for 6 freakin years.. And me, i can't even afford the time to meet him for dinner..

Ashamed really though its not entirely my fault.. Makes you wonder doesn't it??

BTW. so pissed, my tagboard got spamed, so hence the change in skins... :(

Happy Birthday Darling!!!!

Miss you Guys....

Finally..

Sorry for not blogging for so long people.. Life's been a bitch, so have i!! :)

The busy period that i've been going through seems to finally be fading out... Worst few months of my life really... Not in a bad way, but rather, life become so busy that i didn't even time to do anything... Spend time with corrinne, with me beloved frens, my family, even go home at times... Hopefully things will look up... :)

First thing on my agenda now is to go collect my damn dilpoma cert that has been collecting dust over at Informatics... Den hopefully, going to enrol myself in SIM... Hopefully ain't too late...

My seemingly forever driving license would be next.. Have to go renew my stoopid PDL again.. (3rd time??) Hey, stop laughing... :P Have to finish it before the end of this year if not its an invalid advanced theory for me again... Man, must be one of the people who take forever to finish thier driving lessons... Least i know i ain't the worse.. Haha...

Hope fully i will have more time now and even squeeze a holiday if possible... Any ideas people???

These days...

These last few weks have really been hectic.. The amount of work now in the office is really unbearable nowadays.. On the verge of losing it really... 2 hours of sleep a day, staying in 5 days a week.. even my weekends are filled up by other commitments that i have.. Life seems to be heading toward a mono stage again.. Still fighting though, it will end... i know it will.. the only question would be when...

V-day was simple enough.. No fancy dinners anywhere, considering me and corrinne are both lazybums.. :P bought dinner back and ate at my place.. nothing romantic and fancy cuz i really had no time to prep.. However, still managed to dig up some time to get her a beautiful bracelet watch from swatch and a kickass big bunch of 13 roses.. (one for every month we have been together.... imagine next yr!!) come to think about it, its been 13 months since we got together.. No doubt we have our disagreements but other than that, its really been smooth sailing.. Good and bad if you ask me... but thats another story for another day... However, i would still like to declare loudly that i realy do love her very much irregardless... :)

Was planning to go in to go into KL next weekend for a quick minor holiday but plans for that have come to a halt due to other committments... again.... when man??? no idea really...

must really try to find some time through this hectic schedule of mine to meet up with the rest... Amanda, andi, rene, rod, carole, amanda yap, sophie, up, roch, rob, debz, del and all the rest i failed to mention... realllllllllly miss u guys...

What the Hell man...

Just watched finished the Chelski & Pool match...
All i can say is i think the ref should really head on down to the optician to get his damn eyes checked...

Why in the world was Reina sent off when he was provoked by Robben?? that challenge was more of a yellow card than a red man...

Mr Benetiz, i think Fowler really should have played.. If not for the whole game, at least the last half an hour???

And really, i bet my grand mother could head the ball better than Peter Crouch....If not, at least Morienties?

All these frustrations man... Oh, i hope Barcelona whips the holy hell out of Chelski when they meet.. And i'm pretty sure Arsenal and Man U fans would think likewise...
Roch brought up a very interesting point.. Usually, when English clubs play in Europe,say Man U in the past, all fans regardless Liverpool or Arsenal fans would really somehow find it deep within themselves to support them.. But I dun think the same can be said for Chelski....

Arrogant, i think thats the only word that can be used to describe them.. Honestly... the way they play, I feel is really shortchanged if u ask me.. Well, u're that gd to be considered to be professional and yet you end up dropping like a ton of bricks when touched even slightly.. And when the same thing happens to the opponent, u complain and even suggest to the ref to get others sent off... Professional???

Ok, anger management is over... Said my piece... Back to regular life...

Stress... what it is and how we can deal with it..

We all experience stress in our daily lives. It is an inevitable and inescapable aspect of living. However, there are two kinds of stress. The first is positive, energising, and motivating. It is a force that gets us moving and galvanises us into action. The other type of stress has a negative effect on us. This is when we experience an overload of stress from a situation, producing fatigue, exhaustion, physical illness or tension.

Identifying your stressors:
You need to learn to identify which situations you find difficult so that you can beter manage the stress in your life. When we refer to someone being stressed, we perceive that she/he has too many depands placed on the person. All of the issus below may increase the level of stress in a person's life, and common reasons people give for their stress:

* Relationship is in trouble
* Financial pressure
* Family demands
* Ill health or cronic pains
* Deadlines or work overload
* Too many tasks to do in too little time
* Feeling out of control
* Feeling insecure about future plans
* Not enough personal time
* Frustration at work
* Boredome, monotony or lack of stimulation


People react to stress in different ways - often negative causing the overall behaviour to differ from the norm.

How do we manage this stress?
First of all, for something to be stressful we have to perceive it as a cause for stress. Sometimes we exaggerate a situation's potential effect so hat it becomes stressfull. Secondly, we often undermine our ability to manage problems. By expecting a situation to be difficult we perceive it as stressful. If you don't expect to cope, you probably won't. Conversely, with positive expectations, you have the power to diminish the level of stress. So choosing your attitude can be the key to the amount of stress you suffer.

How can we avoid excessive stress in our lives?
If you can identify the causes of stress in your life, you can then learn to deal with stress in a constructive way:

* Plan your time, and write down everything that you have to do each day
* Make sure you have enough time for yourself each week, for the things you enjoy doing
* Spend time with friends - social contact is therapeutic
* Exercise regularly
* Make sure you have something to look forward to - holidays and treats


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Borrowed from "The Pocket Book Therapist"
by Susie Wise and Cyndi Kaplan-Freiman;
Chapter 4 : Understanding and Managing Stress (pg 52-55)

Tunnel Effect

Traveling through the tunnel got me thinking,
Sometimes life flashes by us,
The way the lights in the tunnel pass,
We know it's passing,
Yet don't really care about the knowing...

Sometimes we know life's passing,
But don't care enough to take hold of it,
Too engrossed in the nitty-gritty,
That we lose sight of the whole picture...

One day we'll wake up,
Old and greying,
Wondering how life passed us by,
Without us accomplishing,
All the hopes and dreams we've had...

When that moment comes,
It will be too late...
So don't let the lights of life pass you by,
Don't let opportunity slip through your fingers,
Your moment is now, right here...
The moment that will decide your forever!

Some Inspiring Quotes on Alcohol

Sometimes when I reflect back on all the wine I drink I feel shamed. Then I look into the glass and think about the workers in the vineyards and all of their hopes and dreams If I didn't drink this wine, they might be out of work and their dreams would be shattered. Then I say to myself, "It is better that I drink this wine and let their dreams come true than be selfish and worry about my liver." ~ Jack Handy

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"I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day. " ~Frank Sinatra

WARNING: The consumption of alcohol may create the illusion that you are tougher, smarter, faster and better looking than most people.

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"When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading." ~ Henny Youngman

WARNING: The consumption of alcohol may lead you to think people are laughing WITH you.

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"24 hours in a day, 24 beers in a case. Coincidence? I think not." ~ Stephen Wright

WARNING: The consumption of alcohol may cause you to think you can sing.

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"When we drink, we get drunk. When we get drunk, we fall asleep. When we fall asleep, we commit no sin. When we commit no sin, we go to heaven. So, let's all get drunk and go to heaven!" ~ Brian O'Rourke

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"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy." ~ Benjamin Franklin

WARNING: The consumption of alcohol is a major factor in dancing like a retard.

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"Without question, the greatest invention in the history of mankind is beer. Oh, I grant you that the wheel was also a fine invention, but the wheel does not go nearly as well with pizza."

~ Dave Barry

King Arthur...

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death. The question was: What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests,the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the prince would be high as the witch was famous through out the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged. The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden, but Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur.

He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus: "What a woman really wants," she said, "is to be in charge of her own life." Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared.

And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding. The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bed room.

But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen, lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth be her horrible and deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half. "Which would you prefer? she asked him.

"Beautiful during the day ... or at night?" Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!

Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wonderous, intimate moments with?

(If you are a man reading this ...) What would YOUR choice be?

(If you are a woman reading this ..) What would YOUR MAN'S choice be? What

Lancelot chose is below.

BUT ... make YOUR choice before you scroll down below........OKAY? and do write to me..!!!

Noble Lancelot, knowing the answer the witch gave Arthur to his question, said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life. Now ... what is the moral to this story?

The moral is .. 1) If you don't let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly.

2) There is witch in every woman no matter how beautiful she is!!

3) There is a Beautiful heart in every woman no matter even if shes a witch!!

I LOVE YOU!!!!!!

If I were a skywriter, here's what i'd do,
I'd tell all the world of my love for you!

On some bright morning you'd look up high,
To see your name all over the sky.

Yes, I would be happy and I would be proud,
To write my love in words of cloud.

But lacking a plane and a pilot's art
I've written your name all over my heart.

Egther Burkholder

I love every moment that i spend with you..
I love the times when you make me laugh..
I love the times when you laugh uncontrollably...

Though we may not always agree on everything,
Still you are the one that makes the most sense to me...
What would i do without you???

Stumbled....

Found this to be extremely true.....
Read on...

Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003

Extraced from http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

The longest Saturday Ever...

Only when my beloved girlfriend is in Europe, do i relaise that her presence in my life is actually very important... Without her constantly calling me, it feels as though there is a void, a gaping hole inmy life...

Initially, i thought to myself, "How bad could it be right? Its just 1 week plus.. No biggy..". Boy was i so wrong...

Weekdays are not so bad, with work constantly keeping me on my toes, and frens to meet up with after work.. Least i'm not thinking about it.. But i guess the weekends are the ones that matter the most..

Usually, if corrinne was around, we would just meet up and slack or something.. Though not much, least the time we spend together is significant enough.. Be it at her place or mine, or just walking around aimlessly like 2 headless chickens with no directions in life... At least its fun and in the company of this girlfren of mine, nothing is ever boring...

She just brightens up my days with her amazing ablility to laugh at almost anything.. Well, anything funny of course.. To the normal person, it might just be funny, but to her, it non-stop laughter all the way till she ends up rolling on the floor.. Its almost painfully hilarious when she does that... Hehe..

Other than that, she's also the sweetest person i know.. Constantly putting others before herself.. Even if she does not know the person, let alone know the person well...

Sigh.. I miss her laughter, i miss her voice.. I miss hugging and kissing her... But most of all, i miss the presence of her just being around and telling me not to smoke... Weird as that might sound but i guess its true..

With her not being around till next sat, this weekend was a real bore.. Here i am on a sunday morning at work... (Did i mentioned that i was late? Ok, another story for another time..) Yesterday was kinda a long day cuz i had absolutely nothing to do all day.. Woke up at 2, slacked till the evening.. Met up with edna for a while to go play some pool before going down to town to meet amanda after work as well as germaine and (GASP!!!) her new bf..

(Germaine is attached.. :( There goes hope for the rest of us guys!! Just kidding babe..)

Nick, a pretty nice guy if you ask me.. The four of us went over to Ice Cold Beer for some drinks.. Pool was good after with amanda almost dominating the pool table at one point...
Supper was next on the list and that went on all the way to about 3..

So that was the saturday spent without my girlfren.. Kinda reminds me of the days when i was single.. With no attachments and commitments what so ever... For a brief moment yesterday, whilst sitting there and watching nick and germaine, i felt so single.. Not that its any fault of theirs of course..

I guess i miss my girlfren more than i thought i would..

Mainey: Congrats on u and nick gettin together.. Can see that u really treasure this guy so hang in this one ok?

Manda: Things might not be looking up for u now but the tide will turn soon enough.. And dun worry, i'm sure the day will come when he comes to terms with it.. Its always time that is the greatest enemy..

Corrinne: I guess i never had a chance to miss u more than the time i miss u now... Enjoy yourself in Europe and come home soon.. This smelly guy is waiting for u to watch Harry Potter with him.. :P I love u...

Time check.... Okok, back to work.... :(

The feeling of missing...

Its been awhile since my last entry...
Ah, the nostalgic feeling of having too much work is returning again... Guess it was due anyways...

Corrinne left for switzerland yesterday... I'm so gonna miss her.. Amazingly, it didn't hit me much unitl about a few days ago before... Namely lasy weekend... She won't be back till next sat.. Guess i'll have to keep myself real busy until then...
No problem, with the amount of work i have.. I'll probably still be busy by the time she returns... Though the one thing i would miss would be the conversations we have at night before she sleeps.. wonder if there's anyone else i could call??

Finally clubbed again last weekend.. O bar was a blast and was so tired that i literally conked out whilest look ing after someone who was already out.. Ahh, the power of alcohol.. Love the high feeling but never the feeling of puking.. Despite eating, guess i hammered the drinks too fast and too furious.. hehe.. Won't mind another session though..

Anyone interested? Drop me a buzz... I need drinks...

Quotes about Progress

The difficult is what takes a little time; the impossible is what takes a little longer. (Fridtjof Nansen)

Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!
Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!
Happy Birthday to MEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!
Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!

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